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Relationship therapists are comfortable talking about sexual matters.
Sex is often an important part in a couple’s relationship and it can be very helpful for each person in a relationship to talk about their feelings regarding sex.
Initially, talking about sex can feel daunting, but once some things are out in the open, it can feel very liberating.
We are all conditioned in particular ways, and we can grow up believing certain things that are unhelpful, about ourselves and others.
Understandably, many people find it easier to avoid talking about sex because they do not want to upset their partner.
There can be a risk in a partner feeling that they are not doing something right or feeling that they are not 'good enough'.
Frequently, there can be shameful feelings associated with sex. However, a lack of communication about sex can lead to a couple avoiding sex altogether.
Sex has become a word loaded with expectation and association. Sex in films, box sets and porn, invariably happens spontaneously. Penetration occurs with little or no foreplay. However, in real life, what with young families, work, elderly dependents, social media and particular health conditions, a good sexual experience will require some specific attention!
There is no right amount of sex that any couple should feel they ought to be having.
Because each couple is unique, it stands to reason that their sex-life will be whatever they both feel happy with.
The word “both” is important. No-one needs to be having sex ‘in order to’ keep their partner happy.
It is natural for couples to have phases when they are having more sex, and phases when there is little or no sex.
However, when sex is not happening, intimacy and affection do not need to absent themselves as well!
When sex is consensual and enjoyed, it is intensely pleasurable, bonding, and highly beneficial to the individual and the couple, in many different ways.
Below is a list of sexual issues, commonly discussed in therapy.
Books
There are some excellent books on sex, and I can recommend these:
